Updated: Jul 7
Hey there, worry warriors! Let's dive headfirst into the world of worry. We've all been there, fretting about money, rejection, not being good enough, or even the fear of making a fool of ourselves at that memorable dinner party. The worry list can go on and on, am I right?
But guess what? Worrying doesn't have to be a never-ending nightmare. No more tossing and turning, my friends! I've been on a quest for the past four decades to crack the worry code, and I've got some awesome tricks up my sleeve to share with you.
Before we jump into the fun stuff, let's get real for a moment. Worry can be a real energy-sucker. It can tie us up in knots, drain our mojo, and even paralyze us from taking chances or making changes. But here's a little secret: Your mind doesn't know the difference between fact and fiction or the future and the present moment. It relies on you to tell it what's true.
So, when you worry, your mind takes those thoughts and makes them feel like the gospel truth. Feelings, my friends—that's where the magic happens. Thoughts create feelings, and those feelings drive our actions or inactions. That's why worry can send us into an emotional frenzy or leave us stuck in analysis paralysis.
But fret not, my worry-prone pals! If worry has taken the driver's seat in your life, I've got your back. Let's turn the tables on worry and show it who's boss.
First, let me share two of my all-time favorite quotes about worry. Erma Bombeck once said, "Worry is like a rocking chair: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere." And the wise Dalai Lama reminds us, "If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever."
Aren't those quotes spot on? Worrying truly is a waste of our precious time. But why do we still do it? Well, as Erma said, it gives us something to do when we feel powerless or out of options. Worry takes us out of our logical thinking brain and throws us right into an Amygdala Hijack—the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response.
To manage worry and bring our brains back online, curiosity is our secret weapon. Being curious takes some of the emotional charge out of worry—the charge that keeps us up at night or ties our stomachs in knots.
Now, here's where you come in, worry warriors! The next time worry creeps up on you, ask yourself, "Can I do something to fix this?" By asking this question, you're helping your nervous system to calm down.
Another fantastic technique is to engage your power of choice. Worry can make us feel powerless, but guess what? We're not powerless at all! So, ask yourself, "What do I choose to do right now instead of worry?" Take back the reins and reclaim your personal power.
If that question doesn't tickle your fancy, fear not! Here are a few more to give a whirl:
- "If worry were a person, what would I say to convince it to leave me alone?"
- "What is this worry costing me? And how can I mitigate the cost?"
- "What's the opposite of worry for me? How can I engage in activities that bring those feelings to life?"
Now, let's dive into some fun experiments to manage worry like a boss. Feel free to try one or all of them:
1. Schedule Worry for Another Time: When worry barges in, tell it you'll get back to it later. Literally, schedule worry time in your calendar. Then, when the designated time arrives, sit with your worries, journal about them, and get curious. Shed some light on those worries, and watch them diminish.
2. Throw a Worry Party: If you're gonna worry, why not make it a party? Grab your party supplies—music, comfort food, streamers, and balloons—and set a worry party time. Write down all your worries and why they bother you. Give them the space they need, but don't let the party last too long. Show worry the door when the time is up by ripping up or burning what you wrote. Party on, worry warriors!
3. Change "What if...?" to "How can I...?": Empowerment is the name of the game. Instead of drowning in "what if" scenarios, ask yourself, "How can I make sure this turns out well?" Let the answers flow and feel the empowering vibes take over.
4. Reject Worry and Give It the Bouncer Boot: Worried about rejection? Here's a mind-blowing truth: There's no such thing as rejection. If something doesn't work out, it's the Universe's way of protecting you and creating space for something better. You've got your very own personal bouncer guarding your heart and guiding you to what's truly meant for you.
5. Present Moment Mojo: Worries love to take us on trips to the future or the past. But guess what? The present moment is where the magic happens. Take a deep breath, look around, and engage your senses. What do you hear, see, feel, and taste right now? Feel that worry melt away as you return to the present.
Now, my fellow worry warriors, I'd love to hear your thoughts and answer any questions you might have. Remember, worry doesn't have to call the shots in your life. Together, let's kick worry to the curb and embrace a worry-free existence. You've got this!