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"If I'm too much...go find less!"

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A dear client shared this very short video clip with me titled “If I’m too much…go find less.” It led me to reflect on all the times I’ve been told things like, “You’re too serious” or “You’re far too sensitive.” “You cry too easily,” and “You could stand to lose a few pounds.”

But you know what? I became aware of something, thanks to this short clip. The more I self-reflect and work on my negative narratives, the more I’ve learned to embrace and appreciate every aspect of myself. So, in regard to the things that others have found to be too much…

I’ve come to realize that surface-level conversations don’t fulfill me; I crave deeper connections with others. Engaging in thought-provoking discussions brings me joy, but it doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy light-hearted ones too.

Yes, I am sensitive, and I’ve come to see it as a strength, not a weakness. Caring deeply about others’ feelings and the state of the world is part of my authenticity, and I won’t apologize for it anymore. Empathy and compassion make me feel more connected to the world around me.

Throughout my journey, I’ve learned that a number on the scale does not define my worth. I’ve grown to love and appreciate my body with all its curves because they are a part of my uniqueness. If someone feels uncomfortable with my weight, I’ve learned to let go of that burden and focus on loving myself even more.

Oh, and I do cry easily, and I’ve accepted that as a beautiful expression of my emotions. Touching moments touch my heart deeply, and I’ve stopped feeling embarrassed about my tears. It’s a part of who I am, and I won’t try and hide them anymore.

As the wise Shannon Cohen said, “I will no longer apologize, cower or seek permission for being the fullness of who I am.”

My friends, I want you to know that these words apply to all of you too. Talk about mindset-shifting and resilience creating.

And if someone ever dares to label you as “too much” or “extra,” take it as a compliment. Let it remind you to shine brightly as your authentic, sincere, and genuine self. Your opinion of yourself is what matters most. You are the one who defines your worth and not the critical comments of others.

While someone’s critical comments may hurt, try and remember that they might be projecting their own insecurities and feelings of inadequacy onto you. Don’t let their negativity dim your light; you are deserving of love and respect.

Rejection is never easy, but it can be a blessing in disguise. It opens doors for better connections and relationships with people who truly appreciate and cherish you as you are.

So, my friends, always remember that who you are, just as you are, is valuable and worthy of love and acceptance. If anyone tries to make you feel otherwise, it may be time to let them go and make space for people who see and appreciate your authenticity.

Keep shining brightly, for the world needs your unique, authentic light. And as always, I welcome your thoughts and questions.


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