Pam Thomas is a Chief Change Officer & Intuitive who loves encouraging others to bring their own flavor to the recipes called Life and Business. She has over a decade of experience in helping others stand up and out in positive ways personally and professionally.
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About a month ago I ran across this image on Facebook (included is the follow up comment shared by the creator of the image.)
Follow up comment:
"Thank you all for being part of our party here online. It's an honor to be part of conversations on how we can all make the world more awesome together. I wanted to take a moment to clarify a few things -- as this was just a silly play on the idea of selfies and how cool it might be if we all focused a little more on celebrating other people. Somehow this post has been seen by over 2 million people now. Wow. Also, it's set off a bit of discussion. So a few things: To those friends here who pointed out the irony of the fact that he's by himself in this image- you are very clever. Nice job. : ) There are also some here who were upset that we would say anything against selfies. I want you to know this: it is vital that you learn to love yourself and be confident in who you are. There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a selfie or sharing who you are with the world. There is something wrong when the only person you celebrate is yourself. We could all learn to love ourselves better and also learn to love others better. Perhaps the answer is a good balance between selfies and otherpeoplies? Maybe that's the key. Ah. What do I know! I'm just a dude who makes silly videos! I'm thankful for all of you. I'm thankful for the many young people who read and share what we post. I'm thankful for all the moms, dads, grandmas, brothers, sisters, uncles, teachers, dentists, artists, dreamers, and doers who are part of the community here. Here's to making the world more awesome together! - Brad (the idiot who makes all this stuff) :)"
I love it when something makes me stop in my tracks and really think... just like this image and follow up comment did.
I had to ask myself, "Am I a 'selfie' or am I an 'otherpeoplies'?
Being honest.. I love to celebrate others, but I know there have been times I’ve missed the chance to celebrate someone else’s accomplishments because I’ve been too caught up in my own stuff. Yep, there have been times when I've been self-absorbed, not seeing far beyond my own nose. Sad to say, but true. I'd like to think those times are few and far between and to be sure I began taking inventory of my own behavior.
In doing so, another question came bubbling to the surface, “How can I tell the difference between a “selfie" person vs. an "otherpeoplies" person?”
I've been sitting with that question and here’s what has come up so far...
I think of “selfie” people as being more centered in self whereas “otherpeoplies” people are more heart-centered.
And based on my own personal experience,“selfie” people have a tendency to...
…not take the time nor have the desire to consider another person’s thoughts or point of view. They are usually only concerned about getting their point across and being in the “right” or “know”.
…constantly crave attention and approval. They are often limelight seekers.
…only be concerned with themselves and what they will gain.
..have a “better than” or entitled attitude.
..become bothered or upset when things are not done to their liking.
…not readily show feelings of compassion, understanding or empathy for others or society in general.
..be critical of others and pull people down with their criticism.
…consider what is going on their world as more important then what is going in someone else’s.
…take more than they give.
What being a “selfie" does:
It will deter people from getting too close.
It closes down connections.
It is a form of protection.
It makes up for the lack of connection with one’s heart.
It can be an indication of insecurity and lack of confidence.
So what about “otherpeoplies”? What qualities do they exhibit?
- They care about themselves, but they also care about others.
- They know how to balance the love they have for themselves with the love they have for others.
- They are never so self-absorbed that they forget that other people’s feelings, thoughts, and hearts matter.
- They love without condition or expectation of anything in return.
- They are not afraid to speak their truth, but they do so without anger or blame.
- They are not afraid to share their heart with the world.
- They are genuine and authentic
What being an “otherpeoplies" does:
It attracts rather than repels.
It has a greater impact on people.
It creates connection.
It creates more opportunities and openness.
It’s an authentic place to come from.
Thank you, Kid President! Thank you for the reminder to take pride in who we are, as well as other people. Thank you for calling us out to care and to celebrate one another a bit more. I'm going to strive to be a better "otherpeoplies", how about you?