Pam Thomas loves encouraging others to bring their own flavor to the recipes called Life and Business. She has over a decade of experience in helping others stand up and out in positive ways personally and professionally.
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“We experience ourselves our thoughts and feelings as something separate from the rest. A kind of optical delusion of consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us.” ― Albert Einstein
Einstein was on to something when he said, “we experience our thoughts and feelings as something separate from the rest”.
I have done it and I have witnessed clients, family, and friends do it.
How often have we all treated our limiting thoughts or feelings as a hairy, gargantuan being standing in the corner rubbing its hands together in wait?
How often have we given our power over to those thoughts or feelings?
How many times have our fearful thoughts or feelings deterred us from an opportunity, because they told us a story of “what if”?
The reality is, our thoughts and feelings are ours. They are not separate from us. They are not there to take us down, to ruin us, to make us feel less than unless…unless we let them. Unless we continue to view them as some freak of nature more powerful than we are.
Take fear for example. In the e-course The Insider’s Guide to Dealing With Fear I share the following;
… fear isn’t our enemy. The issue lies with how we react to it. It lies with our thoughts and feelings and how those thoughts magnify and personify fear as that huge, scary monster lurking around the corner just waiting to suck our brains out… Fear is an emotion that is formed in response to a belief or thought, that triggers a feeling, which causes us to act in certain ways.
When fearful thoughts creep in, our brains forget that everything is all right. Our brains forget that we have options and choices available to us to alleviate the fear.
Instead we give our power over to that fearful thought by allowing it to take over. I don’t know about you, but I can ruminate over a fearful thought until it stops me in my tracks and distracts me from whatever it is I’m doing or want to do.
I remember one time in particular (many, many years ago). I had just discovered that I could use my intuitive abilities to provide readings for others. I shared my discovery with my own coach who was over the moon excited. In her excitement she shared what a value-add this would be to all my clients and how I should offer readings as a service. Before I could even blink what came out of my mouth was, “Oh no! I couldn’t possibly. I will lose clients. People will think I’m weird. No. Can’t do it.”
It took three years from that conversation to actually put myself out there as an intuitive. Three years of not doing something that I love doing and that has helped many.
The reality, once I took back my power from my thoughts and fears and put myself out there, I had a great deal of support. I didn’t lose clients I gained them. People didn’t think of me as weird either.
The key is remembering that our brains don’t know the difference between fact and fiction. Our brains need us to tell it what is true and then our brains will provide us with the evidence we need to act or not.
The bottom line… we are so much stronger than our limiting thoughts, our feelings, and even our fears. We truly are.
WAYS TO INCREASE OUR STRENGTH & TAKE BACK OUR POWER
Take a pause. Unless we are in imminent danger, it’s cool to take a pause or a breath and weigh all the options available to us. What are our thoughts or feelings trying to tell us? What do we want to do and why?
“What’s the truth?” That little question has saved my backside. It’s also helped my brain and I to see what’s fact and what’s fiction.
Get the facts. Speaking of facts vs. fiction, when we can gather facts or evidence we reclaim our power and our strength from those deterring thoughts and feelings.
Talk it out. Thoughts and feelings stuffed only grow in strength. Talking about them not only helps to release and diminish them, but we gain an outside perspective. If talking about them doesn’t feel comfortable or is not an option, I find journaling to be a huge help.
It’s important for us to remember that while all our feelings and thoughts are valid, they don’t have power unless we give them the power. While they may feel like monsters in waiting, we truly are so much stronger!
I’m here and I care about what you think so please feel free to share.
Until next time my strong friends, I wish you much love and light...