I'm a people watcher by nature. Not in a creepy, stalker way, but in a curious, "what makes people tick" way. I enjoy watching people exchange with one another and based on some of the things I've seen I've gotten pretty good at distinguishing the level of self-confidence a person has.
Rather then share with you my many observations, I'd rather ask you to look at the following descriptors and think about which you would be more drawn to and why.
Swag (standing up straight, walking with exuberance and purpose) vs Slag (slumped over shoulders and low energy type gait)
Project ( a voice that can be heard and is clear) vs Muffle (a voice you have to strain to hear and understand)
Head Up (eye contact) vs Navel Pondering (no eye contact)
Suave (Put together and I'm not talking about dressed to the 9s. Someone can be in jeans and a t-shirt and be put together) vs Slob (disheveled mess)
I look at these descriptors and recall some of the times when I've dipped my tootsies in the slag, muffling, navel pondering, slob pool. Honestly, it's been those times when I've been self-conscious vs. self-confident, felt powerless instead of powerful (a.k.a. standing in my own personal power).
What We Can Do To Bring Sexy Back
It's hard to project outwardly something that we're just not feeling inwardly, BUT that doesn't mean that we can't use our "outsides" to help amp up our "insides". It's true and I want to encourage you to give a few of the following suggestions a whirl to see for yourself.
Posture is where it's at. When you stand up straight and tall that helps you to feel more confident.
When I first started coaching 10 years ago I was a little (OK, a lot) unsure of my abilities. I remember getting on calls nervous as hell. Someone told me that if I stood up during my calls it would help with the nerves. So stood up tall and straight I did and I'll be damned if it didn't help ease the nerves and amplify my confidence.
Speak up (not to be confused with speaking your truth). It's really important to project when talking, rather than talking softly and breathy. When you hear yourself projecting that also helps to increase self-confidence.
Hold your head up. While your shoes may be really cool, the world can't see you or your shoes when you're looking down. If you hold your head up and make eye contact with the world it will help you to more powerful and confident.
Dress for yourself. I'll be the first one to tell you that I love wearing my comfy sweats or leggings. I do some of my best work when I'm comfy, but that's not to be confused with disheveled. As a matter of fact, as I'm writing this, I've got on one of my favorite pairs of leggings, but I made it a point to find a shirt (sans spots) that I like and I did my hair in way that makes me feel good. Tomorrow, make it a point to dress for yourself. Wear something that makes you feel good. When what you wear makes you feel good it translates into the level of self-confidence you exude.
My friends, I also invite you to share some tips and ideas that have worked for you. Here’s to self-confidence bringing sexy back.
Have an awesome rest of your week. As always, I'm sending you much love and light…