What did we do without cell phones, smart phones, iPads, tablets, and the like?
Don’t get me wrong I love my gadgetry, I truly do. It helps me to stay and feel connected to the pulse and most importantly to others. But I can recall a time when the buzz of it all became extremely consuming.
I used to check and answer emails and texts well after business hours and on weekends. All because I felt that I’d lose business, clients would think I was ignoring them, and friends would feel slighted.
I was “on” and connected 24/7…24/7, without realizing the toll it was taking on my life and my business. I actually used to joke that my own family didn’t recognize me unless they saw the back of my head. Now I realize just how sad that was.
All that pushing to stay connected cost me a lot. It cost me my own mental well being, as well as valuable time with family and friends. In turn, I started to see my productivity wane, my relationships suffer, and my self-deprecating moments become amplified. (When we’re running on fumes we’re extremely susceptible to our fears, negative thoughts, and our own internal itty, bitty shitty committee.)
If you had mentioned self-care to me, I would have scoffed and told you that I was just fine. I didn’t need to refuel. I was taking time for me… if taking a glass of wine or vodka on the rocks out to the hot tub every night counted. (Another telltale sign that I was in need of some serious refuel.)
The bottom line, I was heading for disaster and potentially becoming an alcoholic. And all because I felt I needed to be "on" for everyone and everything!
Things are much different for me now. While I still have my moments of jumping out of bed and diving straight into work, I’ve gotten much better about my own self-care.
Weekends are for family and my own down time. When I’m done with work in the evening, I am done. Mornings start off with my own morning ritual. Relaxation and refueling is the name of my game and do you know what I’ve noticed?
I’m a much better person for it. Fear, self-deprecation and negative thoughts don’t have as much space to creep in as they once did. I’m a better coach & intuitive, because I’m not running on fumes. No one has complained that they feel ignored. Business has not been lost. And actually, I have more energy so I can give others the time and attention they deserve.
ENOUGH ABOUT ME, LETS TALK ABOUT YOU
If you’re feeling…
… like you have to be there for everyone,
… that you need to stay busy in order to be successful,
… guilty or selfish for taking time for you,
… worried that others will think you are lazy, OR
… concerned that you don’t have enough time in your day for self care…
Please know that you’re not alone, I get it! Your feelings are 100% valid!
Having said that, I’d like to invite you to think about something; how easy is it for you to give something you don’t have?
If you take away anything from this post, I hope it’s this…
Self-care is not selfish. It’s actually self-less. Selfish is doing something that would negatively impact another. Self-less is doing something that benefits you and in turn benefits another…to be able to give from a full tank.
There is a reason that when you’re on an airplane they instruct you to put on your oxygen mask first should there be a change in cabin pressure. If you can’t breathe, you can’t help someone else breathe. It’s just that simple.
So I have to ask, how full is your own tank right now?
If it’s feeling a bit on the empty side, then trust me when I tell you the very best thing you can do is refuel in order to avoid running on fumes. I’m not kidding when I tell you that self-care can save your life, your family, and your productivity.
Need more proof? Feel free to have a read;
A study from the UK.
The benefits of mindfulness
If you’re finding yourself short on self-care ideas, not to worry. Here are a few ideas that will surely re-fill your tank, some of which only require 10 minutes.
45 Simple Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul
Seven Types of Self-Care Activities for Coping with Stress
Pinterest: Self-Care Activities
A CHALLENGE – HOW GAME ARE YOU?
I want to invite you to a little challenge; for the next 21 days practice self-care in a way that works for you. If you need a little extra something, feel free to sign up for the 21-Day Challenge in the green banner at the top of the page. It’s completely free!
I also invite you to post in the comment section what you will be doing over the next 21 days in honor of your own self-care. Together lets share ideas, as well as create an accountability team!
Until next time, enjoy refueling! I’m sending you much love and light…
About this blog
This is the place where I share my personal journey, insights, ideas, and a-ha moments helping me to mute my own inner critic. It is my hope you find what you need to mute your own.