I’ve always thought of resistance as that HUGE wall in the middle of my path blocking me from whatever’s on the other side. When it’s not being a major obstacle it’s masquerading itself as limiting beliefs screaming loudly, “Who do you think you are to do this? You don’t have what it takes.”
Or so I’ve thought.
I recognize now that I choose my perception of resistance. Just like I choose to allow it to stop me. Yes, I’ve made the choice to give resistance all my power. And because it’s always been my choice, I’m now choosing to see and deal with resistance differently.
I’m choosing to see it as my ally and not my nemesis.
As my ally, resistance is that “something” that comes forward whenever I’m about to start a project or endeavor that’s really important to me. It’s my cue that I’m taking things to the next level. And it’s also my reminder that I’m on to something good.
Seeing it this way puts the power back where it belongs, with me.
While we are never going to be devoid of resistance, we don’t have to be held hostage by it. We can leverage it and turn it into an ally.
1) Talking ourselves off the ledge. Like fear, resistance only gets stronger if we keep it in the dark. So lets share it out in the open. Write about it. Ask ourselves the following questions to shed light on it:
2) Take one step. In the wise words of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”
3) We always have choice. Choice gives us power so when resistance is present lets try asking ourselves, “What do I choose to do with this resistance?
4) Take some deep breaths. Since resistance hates breath-work lets take some deep breaths using the 4,4,& 4 technique; inhale to a four count, exhale to a four count, four times.
5) Know that the resistance is just our egos talking. Dr. Wayne Dyer used to refer to ego as an acronym for Edging God Out and the best way to get it to stop talking is to meditate or pray.
6) Get into the present moment. Resistance is a great indicator that we’re some place in the future probably fretting over the “what ifs”. To get into the present moment it helps to focus on our breathing or look around and express gratitude for the things we’re seeing in the moment.
7) Look for evidence. Past experiences serve as a great resource. It’s time to jog our memories, looking for evidence of when we felt the resistance, but did something any way.
8) Be mindful of our monkey mind-chatter so we can stop it in its tracks the minute we notice it. Instead of, “I could never do this.” lets try saying something like, ”While this may be a bit scary, I know I have what it takes to do this.” Remembering that our brains don’t know fact from fiction…they rely solely on us for that.
My friends, in closing I’d like to ask you a question... The next time resistance rears its head will you treat it as a nemesis or an ally? Remember, it’s totally up to you. ;)
Sending you much love and light until next time…
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This is the place where I share my personal journey, insights, ideas, and a-ha moments helping me to mute my own inner critic. It is my hope you find what you need to mute your own.