If you dabble with, vibe on, or use Numerology you probably already knew that 2016 was a nine year (2+0+1+6 = 9). In Numerology the number 9 stands for completions, finishing what we start, and a few other cool things. Which makes a lot of sense since 2017 is, you guessed it, a one year (2+0+1+7 = 10 1+0 = 1). The number 1 stands for new beginnings, fresh starts, new energy, and change.
I’m not going to lie; I’m so over 2016 and ready for some new awesome beginnings and new energy. Having said that, I know that in order for my new beginnings to have a fair chance of making it, I have to make some space for them.
So during the month of December I spent time taking inventory of the key areas of my life.
What loose ends needed tying up?
What am/was I ready to let go of?
What, if anything, did I start that I needed to complete?
While there were no loose ends or projects left unfinished, there were a few things that I needed and wanted to let go of. Things that I didn’t want to take with me into this New Year of new beginnings.
So like Santa, I made my list and checked it twice. On that list were the following things that I’ve agreed to dump in the 2016 garbage bin:
Worry when it comes to money. I’ve danced with worry more than a few times during 2016. It was only when I sat out of the dance that all my financial needs were met. That got my attention and so I’ve made the commitment that when worry taps me on the shoulder for a dance, I’ll graciously decline. I’ll remind myself that worry does nothing except give me wrinkles and gray hair. I’ll also remind myself that it’s not nearly as strong as my belief that the Universe is always conspiring for me and not against me.
Judgment of myself and talking about others. Holy crap, as someone who prides herself on being a compassionate, loving person it’s embarrassing to admit that I judged myself rather harshly this past year and I spent some time talking about others… meaning I was judging them too. Not cool!! This behavior has been kicked to the curb. Judgment is my sign of insecurity and so if I feel that insecurity creep in, I’m going to check in and find out why. I’m also going to keep my mouth shut. Instead, I’m going to find something that lifts me up, energizes me, and makes me feel good. I’m going to focus on my strengths and what makes me, me…leaving behind the comparisons (a.k.a judgment).
Playing small. Want to talk about my modus operandi…this has been a big one for me, particularly when it comes to my work in the world. I’ve rested on my laurels by not tapping into my fullest potential. I’ve sat in the shadows and haven’t called too much attention to what I do. How frickin’ sad!!
Make no mistake I love what I do and I’m proud of my work in the world…so that playing small crap has to go. Buh-Bye. In the infamous words of Diana Ross, and I apologize in advance for the earworm…
“I'm coming out
I want the world to know
Got to let it show”
Yep, the world is going to see more of me in 2017. More articles published on other sites and publications. More FB Live broadcasts. Volunteer work. The list continues so do stay tuned.
Motherhood guilt. I have spent the last four years, I’m not kidding, the last four years swimming in guilt until my fingers are pruney. I’ve felt guilty over my co-dependent, helicopter mom ways and then felt guilty for breaking those patterns so abruptly. Which in hindsight has been absolutely necessary in order to create healthier relationships.
My son is now 22 years old and doing his thing. And gratefully I’ve given up the helicopter and co-dependent gig, but not the guilt side effects.
So if that guilt appears I’m going to remind myself of something Brené Brown once said in a TED Talk, “Guilt: I'm sorry. I made a mistake.” All parents make mistakes when it comes to their children. And it would be a huge mistake to hold on to that guilt … I can’t change the past, I can only influence the present moment by forgiving myself.
Since I’m not a silly woman, I know that just saying “Adios” to those things doesn’t mean they’ll magically disappear. It’s going to take conscious action on my part (which I’ve already started).
In taking that conscious action, I’ve begun to create the space for some pretty cool new beginnings…like expanding my reach, creating a movement (more to come on that), and deepening my connection to myself, my spiritual team, my family, as well as finding my tribe.
2017 I am ready for you… You have a clean slate so let’s get to gettin’!
What are you leaving behind as you enter 2017? If you’re not sure, I invite you to take inventory of the key areas of your life with these two questions in mind:
How awesome does this area of my life feel right now on a scale of 1-10? (1 = not so awesome and 10 = totally awesome!)
What’s one thing that’s keeping this area of my life from being as close to a 10 as possible?
With your answer to the second question in hand, make a commitment to take some conscious actions to let go of whatever is blocking the awesome.
And once you begin creating space for some new awesomeness, here’s another question you can use…
What’s one thing I want to add (that’s missing) in order to increase the awesomeness?
My friends, I wish you a Happy 2017! May it be a year that is filled with some awesome new beginnings.
Until next time, I’m sending much love and light to you…
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This is the place where I share my personal journey, insights, ideas, and a-ha moments helping me to mute my own inner critic. It is my hope you find what you need to mute your own.