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Using it to save my backside
“Mindfulness is the aware, balanced acceptance of the present experience. It isn’t more complicated than that. It is opening to or receiving the present moment, pleasant or unpleasant, just as it is, without either clinging to it or rejecting it.” ~Sylvia Boorstein
“Mindfulness”. That word has been floating around me a lot lately. It’s shown up in the things I’m reading. It’s making its way into conversations. It’s just there and for good reason.
When anything appears more than twice in a short span of time I’ve learned to pay attention. Chances are the reappearance is because there’s something I’m meant to learn, shift, grow from, or just stop.
And the truth of the matter is that over the last month I’ve not been mindful. Instead, I’ve been bitchy, negative, complaining, judgmental, and angry.
OK..so that’s not completely accurate. I’ve had periods of mindfulness, but that’s ONLY been during my coaching calls, classes or intuitive readings. Otherwise, I’ve allowed negative situations, people, news, and social media posts to fuel my own mindless bullshit.
I really haven’t liked the me that has been showing up lately so it’s no wonder mindfulness is appearing over and over again!
“Mindfulness is simply being aware of what is happening right now without wishing it were different; enjoying the pleasant without holding on when it changes (which it will); being with the unpleasant without fearing it will always be this way (which it won’t).” ~James Baraz
I get that shit happens. BUT it’s not the shit that has been the issue; it’s how I’ve chosen to deal with it…and the fact that I’ve hung on to it and allowed it to permeate my energy and take up valuable mental real estate. That’s been the real issue!
Normally as my mindful self shit doesn’t bother me all that much. I may get a little prickly but I don’t take it to full-blown bitch mode where not only do I chew on it until it’s lost it’s flavor, but I moan and groan about it repeatedly.
ENOUGH IS ENOUGH
That full-blown bitch mode has been ruling the roost for long enough. She needs to stop messing with my mindfulness. She can come along for the ride, but she doesn’t get to talk any more. And she no longer gets to choose the direction we’re headed in.
Because I want the mindful me back in the driver’s seat, here are some things I’ve started doing and will continue to do…
Morning Routines. They say that meditation is great for mindfulness. I’m getting back to my morning routine of journaling and intuitive readings as my form of meditation.
Breath Work. Morning, Noon, and Night…deep breathing is my best friend, especially if I find myself getting a tad mindless.
Practicing Radical Acceptance. Remembering that there are just some things I can’t change. If I can’t change them... reacting, raising my blood pressure, or becoming mindlessly bitchy is not going to do anything but take me farther away from me.
Hey Mindfulness, thank you for the wake-up call and for saving my backside!! Here’s to returning to my peace-loving, heart-centered, positive self.
As always, I’m here and I’m listening. If you’ve been struggling with mindlessness or if you have some ways that help you to stay mindful, do share.
Until next time, I’m sending you all some mindful love and light from my open-heart to yours….