Just recently I picked up the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. This is a book that I've had in my collection for some time now, but funnily enough I've never read it cover-to-cover. If you aren't familiar with the book, it's based upon the following:
I love books that make me think and even re-think what I've either learned over the years or felt to be true. This book is doing just that. I'm thinkin' and I'm thinkin' hard, particularly about beliefs…how they are formed, where they come from, how they can be a filter or sometimes a place to hide, how they can build something up or tear something down. My mind has been a buzz.
What has impacted me most is how so very often we take on other people's beliefs and once we do they become our own, our agreement. This concept has provoked me to take an inward dive into my own beliefs.
Any belief that generates fear or feelings of unworthiness is false; it's a lie." Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
Like a squatter taking up resident, some of my beliefs have been lurking in the shadows…. trying desperately to go undetected. It's amazing how eye-opening it can be when you shine a light on something that has been with you for what seems like forever. You see it for it is or isn't.
I see some of my beliefs now for what they are, BIG, FAT BOLD FACED LIES that I agreed to. Falsehoods that don't serve. It's actually been quite liberating to take a good, hard look at all my own beliefs and I'm grateful to this book for being my flashlight.
So now with trusty flashlight in hand, if you're game, let's find your squatter beliefs and kick them to the curb. To do just that I want to lovingly challenge you to answer the following questions:
What do I believe about myself? (List out every belief that comes to mind.)
What do I believe about love? (Again, list out every belief that comes to mind.)
What do I believe about the world? (You get the gist, begin listing.)
What do I believe about money? (Oh yeah, keep writing.)
What do I believe about <blank> ? (The topic/area of your choosing and you know the drill…list away.)
Now, here's the really fun part….of the beliefs you've listed, which ones evoke negative feelings? Pull those out of the list, take a good look at them and then for each one ask yourself, "What do I CHOOSE to believe?" Remember, you don't have to agree to any belief unless you truly want to.
As always, I welcome your thoughts, questions, and insights.
Until next time, I'm sending you much love and light…
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