This past weekend I was watching Super Soul Sunday, one of my favorite Sunday things to do. As I flipped through the morning schedule of inspiring past shows, one piqued my interest more than the others. “Unlocking Your Creative Genius”, Oprah’s interview with Steven Pressfield, the author of “The War of Art.” I’m actually not too familiar with Mr. Pressfield’s work, but I’m always game to learn more about creative genius and how we can unlock our own.
With pen and journal in hand I watched. I began adding a few new tools to my already well-stocked toolbox. Not to mention having a few “a-has” around resistance. (More to come in a future post.)
The beginning of the interview was engaging, as I found myself agreeing with many of the points being made…
…yes to everyone has a calling,
…yes to everyone is placed on this earth for a reason,
…and yes to “put your ass where your heart wants to be.” (Love that!)
Then Mr. Pressfield said something that made me want to stop listening. Something that raised my hackles REALLY high! He said…
“Everyone KNOWS their calling.”
Why did this raise my hackles?
Because that’s just not true and I’ve seen statements like that twist a person’s soul or cause great pain and feelings of inadequacy. Not to mention, I’ve heard many, many times, “There must be something wrong with me, because I can’t figure out what my passion or purpose is.”
If I sound bitchy, I apologize sincerely.
The truth is if everyone knew their calling there wouldn’t be a need for coaches, assessments, or books like “I Could Do Anything If I Only Knew What It Was” by Barbara Sher.
Not everyone knows their calling.
Some do and that’s FANTASTIC! But not everyone!
Some Thoughts About Calling
It’s OK if we don’t know our calling. Not knowing does not make us flawed and incomplete as human beings. It’s in the not knowing that we get to try different things on for size.
Callings don’t have to be that “something” that changes the world on a massive scale. They just need to be something that creates a strong pull for us.
It’s never too late and we are never too old to find ours.
Here’s something to consider…what if rather than search for our calling we discover our values and live through those values on regular basis? At the end of the day, our values are connected to our calling.
Having shared those thoughts, if you’re still searching for your own calling and feeling the pressure, I offer the following suggestions:
1.) Ignore the external voices that say you SHOULD know what you were put on this earth to do. Those external voices, they aren’t you. They don’t know your life or walk in your shoes.
2.) I love what Elizabeth Gilbert once said … be like a hummingbird and have a curiosity-driven life. It’s your own curiosity that often leads you to your calling.
3.) Connect with your values and use them! If you aren’t sure what your values are or how to use them, then please get in touch.
4.) Stay present and open to the possibilities. I love what Pam Grout does every morning so much so that I borrowed it from her. Each morning I say, “Something awesome is going to happen to me today.”
5.) Remember, that there is NOTHING wrong with you if you can’t name and claim your calling,
7.) This is worth repeating once again….stop striving for the big, thinking that your calling has to be big in order for it to be an important calling. Maybe you make great cakes that put a smile on people’s faces and when you are doing so you feel like you are in a flow. My friend, that’s an important calling!
8.) Recognize and acknowledge all your cool qualities and characteristics. Do you make people laugh? Are you a giving person? Do you write really well?
9.) Stop the comparisons! When you compare yourself to someone else, you’re continuing the feeling of inadequacy and you’re hiding what makes you, you!
The bottom-line, whether you can name your calling or not, don’t ever underestimate the difference you make just by being here and being you!
Until next time, here’s to you in much love and gratitude…