While at a bookstore the other day, a man walked past me talking out loud. He appeared to be deeply engaged in conversation with a person that was not there, as he was walking alone. As he walked through the bookstore, down the aisles and past me again, the conversation continued.
“I’m afraid to hug and kiss you too much. I’m afraid it will frighten you.”
“People are interesting…”
I found myself deeply concerned for this man. Was he there with someone else? Who was going to make sure that he remained safe? Did he leave wherever he was living without being noticed? Would someone be crazy with worry about his disappearance?
In a matter of a few short minutes I created an entire story in my head about this man and his well-being. Holy frickin’ assumptions!! I didn’t know this man. I had no clue what his story was, but yet I took it upon myself to create one. What gave me the right?
Nothing gave me that right. What became all too apparent to me was how quickly I was to judge based on my assumptions and surface level information.
How often do we create “stories” about what we think “might be”? Is it a default to do that? And why is it that the “stories” we sometimes create are filled with a bit of drama?
I had this man headed for danger when I could have painted a more positive picture in my head. Or better yet, I could have talked to him and found out more about his story.
While I’m not too thrilled that I made assumptions, I’m grateful for the reminder of how important it is to remain curious. Just like children who do it so beautifully and innocently.
Jumping to conclusions, making assumptions, or judging a situation or person closes the door to learn something cool and new. It prevents connections from being made. It does nothing for self-worth or self-esteem, mine or anyone else's. Most importantly, it imposes my thoughts and beliefs on someone else. I wouldn’t want someone to do that to me.
So my friends, my question to you is this…
How do you connect with your own curiosity and avoid the assumptions?
And now for some fun....
For the next week, I invite you to join me in being curious. Let assumptions and stories be the trigger to activate your curiosity. Instead of continuing with the story or the assumptions, observe and/or ask questions. Enjoy the experience of being curious.
Here’s to playing and having fun with curiosity. To quieting the assumptions and getting more information.
Much love and light to you...
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