I'd be lying if I told you that I'm keeping it all together all day, every day. I'm not. And even though as a mindset coach I've got all sorts of tips and tricks, there are just times when a good ol' fashion meltdown is clearing and cathartic. (For me, a meltdown equates to a good cry.)
Here's the deal...
Feelings kept bottled up, stuffed, buttoned up, etc don't go away. They find a way to come out. Like that snarky comment that we didn't mean to make OR that verbal grenade that we didn't mean to throw.
So, basically what I'm saying is if you feel a meltdown coming on, it's natural. Allow the meltdown to come up and out. (As a side tip: I do my melting down some place quiet so that it doesn't "melt" all over any one else.)
If melting down isn't your thing, I get it! Not to worry. I've got some other handy dandy tricks up my proverbial sleeve. Use these for the times when you feel a "losing it" moment coming on.
Hit the pause button
Yep, when you're feeling the edge coming on and you're about to blow your top, hit the pause button. Which means take a 10 minute time out before you say or do anything. Give yourself a little bit of a break to grab some water or take a deep breath.
Engage some oxytocin
Speaking of breathing, I do a little breathing exercise that's great for chasing away that "losing it" feeling. It's called oxytocin breathing and rather than explain it, here's a video that demonstrates it.
Laugh it off
Laughing releases some awesome "feel good" chemicals. In my house we've been re-binge watching episodes of Schitt's Creek on Netflix in the evenings. LOVE. LOVE. LOVE. that show. And if you want a quick little chuckle, check out this hilarious video clip making its way around Facebook.
Just remember, my friend if you feel like you're losing it, you're not alone and you're not going crazy! It's times like these that a little grace for ourselves goes a long way. Just know that I'm sending you a ton of love and light!
Take care of you and stay well and safe... Pam
P.S. For your reading pleasure ... to deal with things like fear, emotions, and how to create bit more calming personal power, be sure to check out the following blog posts.