What did we do without cell phones, smart phones, iPads, tablets, and the like?
Don’t get me wrong I love my gadgetry, I truly do. It helps me to stay and feel connected to the pulse and most importantly to others. But I can recall a time when the buzz of it all became extremely consuming.
I used to check and answer emails and texts well after business hours and on weekends. All because I felt that I’d lose business, clients would think I was ignoring them, and friends would feel slighted.
I was “on” and connected 24/7…24/7, without realizing the toll it was taking on my life and my business. I actually used to joke that my own family didn’t recognize me unless they saw the back of my head. Now I realize just how sad that was.
All that pushing to stay connected cost me a lot. It cost me my own mental well being, as well as valuable time with family and friends. In turn, I started to see my productivity wane, my relationships suffer, and my self-deprecating moments become amplified. (When we’re running on fumes we’re extremely susceptible to our fears, negative thoughts, and our own internal itty, bitty shitty committee.)
If you had mentioned self-care to me, I would have scoffed and told you that I was just fine. I didn’t need to refuel. I was taking time for me… if taking a glass of wine or vodka on the rocks out to the hot tub every night counted. (Another telltale sign that I was in need of some serious refuel.)
The bottom line, I was heading for disaster and potentially becoming an alcoholic. And all because I felt I needed to be "on" for everyone and everything!
Things are much different for me now. While I still have my moments of jumping out of bed and diving straight into work, I’ve gotten much better about my own self-care.
Weekends are for family and my own down time. When I’m done with work in the evening, I am done. Mornings start off with my own morning ritual. Relaxation and refueling is the name of my game and do you know what I’ve noticed?
I’m a much better person for it. Fear, self-deprecation and negative thoughts don’t have as much space to creep in as they once did. I’m a better coach & intuitive, because I’m not running on fumes. No one has complained that they feel ignored. Business has not been lost. And actually, I have more energy so I can give others the time and attention they deserve.
ENOUGH ABOUT ME, LETS TALK ABOUT YOU
If you’re feeling…
… like you have to be there for everyone,
… that you need to stay busy in order to be successful,
… guilty or selfish for taking time for you,
… worried that others will think you are lazy, OR
… concerned that you don’t have enough time in your day for self care…
Please know that you’re not alone, I get it! Your feelings are 100% valid!
Having said that, I’d like to invite you to think about something; how easy is it for you to give something you don’t have?
If you take away anything from this post, I hope it’s this…
Self-care is not selfish. It’s actually self-less. Selfish is doing something that would negatively impact another. Self-less is doing something that benefits you and in turn benefits another…to be able to give from a full tank.
There is a reason that when you’re on an airplane they instruct you to put on your oxygen mask first should there be a change in cabin pressure. If you can’t breathe, you can’t help someone else breathe. It’s just that simple.
So I have to ask, how full is your own tank right now?
If it’s feeling a bit on the empty side, then trust me when I tell you the very best thing you can do is refuel in order to avoid running on fumes. I’m not kidding when I tell you that self-care can save your life, your family, and your productivity.
Need more proof? Feel free to have a read;
A study from the UK.
The benefits of mindfulness
If you’re finding yourself short on self-care ideas, not to worry. Here are a few ideas that will surely re-fill your tank, some of which only require 10 minutes.
45 Simple Self-Care Practices for a Healthy Mind, Body, and Soul
Seven Types of Self-Care Activities for Coping with Stress
Pinterest: Self-Care Activities
A CHALLENGE – HOW GAME ARE YOU?
I want to invite you to a little challenge; for the next 21 days practice self-care in a way that works for you. If you need a little extra something, feel free to sign up for the 21-Day Challenge in the green banner at the top of the page. It’s completely free!
I also invite you to post in the comment section what you will be doing over the next 21 days in honor of your own self-care. Together lets share ideas, as well as create an accountability team!
Until next time, enjoy refueling! I’m sending you much love and light…